We've all got one. We know we need to have a conversation with someone about something important. But we don't. We put it off and avoid the inevitable.
I don't want to upset them
Maybe I'm wrong
Now is not the right time
I need more information
I don't know how to start
When I get back from holiday...
And all the time we defer and procrastinate, things don't change. They probably get worse. The other person doesn't know how we feel and, as time passes, our silence validates the status quo. And then we've got to have the conversation. Right here, right now. Probably not at a time and place of our choosing. We're unprepared, unwilling and probably just do it badly. It's a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Of course, it doesn't have to be like this. Vistage speaker Janet Tarasofsky spoke about how these vital conversations don't have to mean conflict. While there may be challenge in every conflict, there doesn't have to be conflict in every challenge!
Look at that conversation you need to have. Yes, there are two sides to the story, but is it a win-lose? Does the other person know these's a problem? Substitute the word conflict with something more open; softer.
If you're going to get the best outcome, its likely that you'll do this through working together, rather than fighting. Look out for more videos with Janet to learn more about Courageous Conversations.